Talking to children

Some people avoid telling their children they have cancer. However, children usually sense something is wrong even it they don’t know what it is. When not told what is going on, children may imagine the worst. They may also find out from someone else, which can make them feel angry and confused.

Some parents thing they are protecting their children by withholding bad news. In fact, your children may benefit by your open and honest approach. With planning, practice and support from your family or health professionals, most parents are able to talk to their kids about cancer.

Consider what you will say and how you will say it before the discussion. Talk to children in a language they understand – younger children need simple explanations and teenagers and young adults might ask for more details.

Communicating with children gives them the opportunity to ask questions and to express their feelings. Encourage your children to tell you what they know about cancer, and answer questions honestly. This gives you the chance to clear up any misunderstandings. Children may also need reassurance that your illness is not their fault.

Tell other people close to your children (grandparents, friends and school teachers) about your diagnosis and your plan for talking to the children, so that you all say similar things. Trusted friends can also talk to your children about cancer if you feel unable.

Source – Cancer Council 

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Cancer Council NSW